From: JosephKK on
On Fri, 07 May 2010 17:46:30 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
<krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:

>On Thu, 06 May 2010 21:29:13 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>
>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 17:58:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>
>>>On Wed, 05 May 2010 21:35:35 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 23:37:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 20:59:26 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>>On Tue, 4 May 2010 16:21:39 -0700, "Joel Koltner"
>>>>>><zapwireDASHgroups(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote in message
>>>>>>>news:hb91u5t2ova3gpvhvkr9ost92assaje3j5(a)4ax.com...
>>>>>>>> We generally don't buy Lattes, or such, but we're not beyond buying a coffee
>>>>>>>> at Dinkin' Donuts (except that there are none here). I do spend some cash
>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>> hobby stuff, though. Gotta get ready to retire. ;-)
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>Which hobbies might those be, Keith? I was thinking your main hobby was
>>>>>>>watching football on a big-screen TV... ;-)
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Interesting, Keith did not strike me as the big screen type at all.
>>>>>
>>>>>We have a 42" plasma. Not huge by today's standards but it works for our
>>>>>great room.
>>>>
>>>>Use it much?
>>>
>>>I watch a couple of hours a night (usually compressed into 90 minutes). SWMBO
>>>has it on whenever she's awake (and significant time when she's not ;).
>>
>>SWMBO use, i keep forgetting that one. (i don't have a SWMBO)
>
>Maybe that's why you don't have one? ;-)

It might be a factor. Then again, i never did get much joy out of
permanently unbalanced relationships.
From: krw on
On Sun, 09 May 2010 09:29:08 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:

>On Fri, 07 May 2010 17:46:30 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>
>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 21:29:13 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>
>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 17:58:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>
>>>>On Wed, 05 May 2010 21:35:35 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 23:37:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 20:59:26 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>On Tue, 4 May 2010 16:21:39 -0700, "Joel Koltner"
>>>>>>><zapwireDASHgroups(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote in message
>>>>>>>>news:hb91u5t2ova3gpvhvkr9ost92assaje3j5(a)4ax.com...
>>>>>>>>> We generally don't buy Lattes, or such, but we're not beyond buying a coffee
>>>>>>>>> at Dinkin' Donuts (except that there are none here). I do spend some cash
>>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>>> hobby stuff, though. Gotta get ready to retire. ;-)
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>Which hobbies might those be, Keith? I was thinking your main hobby was
>>>>>>>>watching football on a big-screen TV... ;-)
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>Interesting, Keith did not strike me as the big screen type at all.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>We have a 42" plasma. Not huge by today's standards but it works for our
>>>>>>great room.
>>>>>
>>>>>Use it much?
>>>>
>>>>I watch a couple of hours a night (usually compressed into 90 minutes). SWMBO
>>>>has it on whenever she's awake (and significant time when she's not ;).
>>>
>>>SWMBO use, i keep forgetting that one. (i don't have a SWMBO)
>>
>>Maybe that's why you don't have one? ;-)
>
>It might be a factor. Then again, i never did get much joy out of
>permanently unbalanced relationships.

Unbalanced? Maybe *that* is your problem.
From: JosephKK on
On Sun, 09 May 2010 22:18:45 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
<krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:

>On Sun, 09 May 2010 09:29:08 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>
>>On Fri, 07 May 2010 17:46:30 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>
>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 21:29:13 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 17:58:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>On Wed, 05 May 2010 21:35:35 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 23:37:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 20:59:26 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>On Tue, 4 May 2010 16:21:39 -0700, "Joel Koltner"
>>>>>>>><zapwireDASHgroups(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote in message
>>>>>>>>>news:hb91u5t2ova3gpvhvkr9ost92assaje3j5(a)4ax.com...
>>>>>>>>>> We generally don't buy Lattes, or such, but we're not beyond buying a coffee
>>>>>>>>>> at Dinkin' Donuts (except that there are none here). I do spend some cash
>>>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>>>> hobby stuff, though. Gotta get ready to retire. ;-)
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>Which hobbies might those be, Keith? I was thinking your main hobby was
>>>>>>>>>watching football on a big-screen TV... ;-)
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>Interesting, Keith did not strike me as the big screen type at all.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>We have a 42" plasma. Not huge by today's standards but it works for our
>>>>>>>great room.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Use it much?
>>>>>
>>>>>I watch a couple of hours a night (usually compressed into 90 minutes). SWMBO
>>>>>has it on whenever she's awake (and significant time when she's not ;).
>>>>
>>>>SWMBO use, i keep forgetting that one. (i don't have a SWMBO)
>>>
>>>Maybe that's why you don't have one? ;-)
>>
>>It might be a factor. Then again, i never did get much joy out of
>>permanently unbalanced relationships.
>
>Unbalanced? Maybe *that* is your problem.

Having had more than one balanced relationship has spoilt me. I won't
settle for anything less now.
From: krw on
On Sun, 09 May 2010 23:12:57 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:

>On Sun, 09 May 2010 22:18:45 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>
>>On Sun, 09 May 2010 09:29:08 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>
>>>On Fri, 07 May 2010 17:46:30 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>
>>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 21:29:13 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 17:58:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>>On Wed, 05 May 2010 21:35:35 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 23:37:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 20:59:26 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>On Tue, 4 May 2010 16:21:39 -0700, "Joel Koltner"
>>>>>>>>><zapwireDASHgroups(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote in message
>>>>>>>>>>news:hb91u5t2ova3gpvhvkr9ost92assaje3j5(a)4ax.com...
>>>>>>>>>>> We generally don't buy Lattes, or such, but we're not beyond buying a coffee
>>>>>>>>>>> at Dinkin' Donuts (except that there are none here). I do spend some cash
>>>>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>>>>> hobby stuff, though. Gotta get ready to retire. ;-)
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>Which hobbies might those be, Keith? I was thinking your main hobby was
>>>>>>>>>>watching football on a big-screen TV... ;-)
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>Interesting, Keith did not strike me as the big screen type at all.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>We have a 42" plasma. Not huge by today's standards but it works for our
>>>>>>>>great room.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>Use it much?
>>>>>>
>>>>>>I watch a couple of hours a night (usually compressed into 90 minutes). SWMBO
>>>>>>has it on whenever she's awake (and significant time when she's not ;).
>>>>>
>>>>>SWMBO use, i keep forgetting that one. (i don't have a SWMBO)
>>>>
>>>>Maybe that's why you don't have one? ;-)
>>>
>>>It might be a factor. Then again, i never did get much joy out of
>>>permanently unbalanced relationships.
>>
>>Unbalanced? Maybe *that* is your problem.
>
>Having had more than one balanced relationship has spoilt me. I won't
>settle for anything less now.

Given that you've experienced more than one, why would you assume others would
be unbalanced?
From: JosephKK on
On Mon, 10 May 2010 17:16:54 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
<krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:

>On Sun, 09 May 2010 23:12:57 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>
>>On Sun, 09 May 2010 22:18:45 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>
>>>On Sun, 09 May 2010 09:29:08 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>>On Fri, 07 May 2010 17:46:30 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 21:29:13 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>>On Thu, 06 May 2010 17:58:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>On Wed, 05 May 2010 21:35:35 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 23:37:10 -0500, "krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz"
>>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>On Tue, 04 May 2010 20:59:26 -0700, "JosephKK"<quiettechblue(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>On Tue, 4 May 2010 16:21:39 -0700, "Joel Koltner"
>>>>>>>>>><zapwireDASHgroups(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>><krw(a)att.bizzzzzzzzzzzz> wrote in message
>>>>>>>>>>>news:hb91u5t2ova3gpvhvkr9ost92assaje3j5(a)4ax.com...
>>>>>>>>>>>> We generally don't buy Lattes, or such, but we're not beyond buying a coffee
>>>>>>>>>>>> at Dinkin' Donuts (except that there are none here). I do spend some cash
>>>>>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>>>>>> hobby stuff, though. Gotta get ready to retire. ;-)
>>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>>Which hobbies might those be, Keith? I was thinking your main hobby was
>>>>>>>>>>>watching football on a big-screen TV... ;-)
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>Interesting, Keith did not strike me as the big screen type at all.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>We have a 42" plasma. Not huge by today's standards but it works for our
>>>>>>>>>great room.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>Use it much?
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>I watch a couple of hours a night (usually compressed into 90 minutes). SWMBO
>>>>>>>has it on whenever she's awake (and significant time when she's not ;).
>>>>>>
>>>>>>SWMBO use, i keep forgetting that one. (i don't have a SWMBO)
>>>>>
>>>>>Maybe that's why you don't have one? ;-)
>>>>
>>>>It might be a factor. Then again, i never did get much joy out of
>>>>permanently unbalanced relationships.
>>>
>>>Unbalanced? Maybe *that* is your problem.
>>
>>Having had more than one balanced relationship has spoilt me. I won't
>>settle for anything less now.
>
>Given that you've experienced more than one, why would you assume others would
>be unbalanced?

The very definition of SWBMO requires an unbalanced relationship.
"Low WAF (SAF)" does not necessarily require such but does not preclude
it.

Absence of spousal input on any significant (impacts spouse plans or
desires) decision may indicate injudicious boundaries.

Adults should balance out, and each will have areas of primacy in
knowledge, interest, time available. These tradeoffs should adapt as the
adults continue to develop, age, and circumstances change.