From: D.M. Procida on
Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:

> > Once I lost them all, I never attached any meaning to them once i
> > started regaining them. I don't know, I expected them to go again.
>
> So your books were lost in a fire, and that meant you ended up
> considering books worthless?
>
> </DEEPLY/ puzzled>

Once he lost his books, he discovered that he didn't have the same
relationship with them as he had before - as if perhaps they might
disappear once again.

Daniele
From: Rowland McDonnell on
Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:

> Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
>
> > Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
[snip]

> > Uhuh. So you're just being contrary for the sake of
> > getting a rise out of me, yes?
>
> What are you talking about?

Since it's perfectly obvious what I'm on about, this question of yours
is another ill-meant wind-up in the same vein. I'm pretty damned
annoyed with you.

> > > > Assume no spare space for any more books in the house, nor any off-site
> > > > storage available without paying for it.
> > > >
> > > > (the above is roughly my situation)
> > > >
> > > > > I lost loads in a fire once. That is probably why I don't care
> > > > > much about books these days.
> > > >
> > > > <puzzled> Does not compute.
> > >
> > > Once I lost them all, I never attached any meaning to them once i
> > > started regaining them. I don't know, I expected them to go again.
> >
> > So your books were lost in a fire, and that meant you ended up
> > considering books worthless?
> >
> > </DEEPLY/ puzzled>
> >
> > Still does not compute.
>
> Why would it have to compute? That is how it affected me, it is an
> emotion, not a decision.

<sigh> Humour. Have you heard of it? What the above phrase was meant
as was an application of humour to a situation.

It's me picking a hopefully mildly funny mode of pointing out that I
don't understand, don't get it - with a side-band indicating that the
problem is probably down to something particular about your emotional
make-up that I do not share with you.

Of course you will insult me by suggesting that the reason for that is
my mental health problems now that I've explained that in full.

But I had been hoping that this time, I might just be able to persuade
you to explain a point rather than just insult me when I make it clear I
don't understand.

So much for *that* hope...

Rowland.

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From: Woody on
Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
> Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
>
>> Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid>
> > wrote:
>>
>>> Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
> [snip]
>
>>> Uhuh. So you're just being contrary for the sake of
>>> getting a rise out of me, yes?
>>
>> What are you talking about?
>
> Since it's perfectly obvious what I'm on about, this question of yours
> is another ill-meant wind-up in the same vein. I'm pretty damned
> annoyed with you.

If it was obvious, I wouldn't have asked.

>>>>> Assume no spare space for any more books in the house, nor any
> > > > > off-siteq
>>>>> storage available without paying for it.
>>>>>
>>>>> (the above is roughly my situation)
>>>>>
>>>>>> I lost loads in a fire once. That is probably why I don't care
>>>>>> much about books these days.
>>>>>
>>>>> <puzzled> Does not compute.
>>>>
>>>> Once I lost them all, I never attached any meaning to them once i
>>>> started regaining them. I don't know, I expected them to go again.
>>>
>>> So your books were lost in a fire, and that meant you ended up
>>> considering books worthless?
>>>
>>> </DEEPLY/ puzzled>
>>>
>>> Still does not compute.
>>
>> Why would it have to compute? That is how it affected me, it is an
>> emotion, not a decision.
>
> <sigh> Humour. Have you heard of it? What the above phrase was
> meant
> as was an application of humour to a situation.

I have, I live by it. However, as you don't often use it, and berated me
a few weeks ago for not using a smiley to show that I was using humour,
I didn't notice, sorry.

> It's me picking a hopefully mildly funny mode of pointing out that I
> don't understand, don't get it - with a side-band indicating that the
> problem is probably down to something particular about your emotional
> make-up that I do not share with you.

I fully agree. I think our difference on this is that you don't
understand my reaction to something but feel you need to understand. I
also don't understand my reaction to it it, but don't really feel it
important enough to worry about.

> Of course you will insult me by suggesting that the reason for that is
> my mental health problems now that I've explained that in full.

No I won't. As I said before, I am not insulting anyone until I feel
insulted, which you haven't yet.

> But I had been hoping that this time, I might just be able to persuade
> you to explain a point rather than just insult me when I make it clear
> I
> don't understand.

Reasonable hope, but the problem is that I really don't understand it
myself. I had a lot of books I cared about (and other stuff) and lost it
all in a fire. I was gutted about it but after that never really cared
about books again.
I now have several bookcases full of books and quite a few others
scattered around the house. In a perfect world they would convert
themselves to ebooks.
If they all disappeared tomorrow my first thought would be that I had a
lot more free space

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From: D.M. Procida on
Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:

> > Once he lost his books, he discovered that he didn't have the same
> > relationship with them as he had before - as if perhaps they might
> > disappear once again.
>
> Yes, I can read the words - but I don't gain any meaning from doing so.
>
> I just don't get what he's on about at all.

Saying "I just don't get what he's on about" sounds rude, if it's not
meant to be.

> I have a relationship with books that cannot be affected in the way
> described, and I can't get my head round any sort of relationship with
> books that would result in Woody's report.
>
> I mean, if all my books died in a fire, I'd be mightily pissed off; but
> my relationship with them would be unchanged - how else?

It hadn't occurred to me until Woody described it, but I can imagine
what it might be like to have that relationship changed forever by such
a loss.

In other contexts, it's quite a familar idea that an event like that can
leave one unable to re-make an emotional investment that was wiped out.

Daniele
From: Rowland McDonnell on
D.M. Procida <real-not-anti-spam-address(a)apple-juice.co.uk> wrote:

> Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
>
> > > Once he lost his books, he discovered that he didn't have the same
> > > relationship with them as he had before - as if perhaps they might
> > > disappear once again.
> >
> > Yes, I can read the words - but I don't gain any meaning from doing so.
> >
> > I just don't get what he's on about at all.
>
> Saying "I just don't get what he's on about" sounds rude, if it's not
> meant to be.

It seems to me like a perfectly normal neutral way of expressing a
neutral fact that couldn't possibly be objected to by anyone.

What do you think is the rude aspect of it?

> > I have a relationship with books that cannot be affected in the way
> > described, and I can't get my head round any sort of relationship with
> > books that would result in Woody's report.
> >
> > I mean, if all my books died in a fire, I'd be mightily pissed off; but
> > my relationship with them would be unchanged - how else?
>
> It hadn't occurred to me until Woody described it, but I can imagine
> what it might be like to have that relationship changed forever by such
> a loss.

Bully for you. I can't - care to explain anything about it?

> In other contexts, it's quite a familar idea that an event like that can
> leave one unable to re-make an emotional investment that was wiped out.

Umm. Sorry, what do you mean by *that*? I'm utterly bemused.

Rowland.

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