From: D.M. Procida on
Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:

> D.M. Procida <real-not-anti-spam-address(a)apple-juice.co.uk> wrote:
>
> > Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
> >
> > > > Once he lost his books, he discovered that he didn't have the same
> > > > relationship with them as he had before - as if perhaps they might
> > > > disappear once again.
> > >
> > > Yes, I can read the words - but I don't gain any meaning from doing so.
> > >
> > > I just don't get what he's on about at all.
> >
> > Saying "I just don't get what he's on about" sounds rude, if it's not
> > meant to be.
>
> It seems to me like a perfectly normal neutral way of expressing a
> neutral fact that couldn't possibly be objected to by anyone.
>
> What do you think is the rude aspect of it?

If I were describing my feelings about losing something that mattered to
me, and someone said that they didn't get what I was on about, I'd be a
bit taken aback.

> > In other contexts, it's quite a familar idea that an event like that can
> > leave one unable to re-make an emotional investment that was wiped out.
>
> Umm. Sorry, what do you mean by *that*? I'm utterly bemused.

There are lots of things people will never understand about each other.

Even I, a powerful and effortless empath with a score of eight -
*eight*! - on the official UCSM autistic spectrum diagnostic tool, don't
quite get some things.

Daniele
From: Woody on
Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:

> Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
>
> > Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
> > > Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
> > >
> > >> Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid>
> > > > wrote:
> > >>
> > >>> Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
> > > [snip]
> > >
> > >>> Uhuh. So you're just being contrary for the sake of
> > >>> getting a rise out of me, yes?
> > >>
> > >> What are you talking about?
> > >
> > > Since it's perfectly obvious what I'm on about, this question of yours
> > > is another ill-meant wind-up in the same vein. I'm pretty damned
> > > annoyed with you.
> >
> > If it was obvious, I wouldn't have asked.
>
> I don't believe you. I think you ask me things like that to wind me up.

Suit yourself, I have no way to prove it.

> > >>>>> Assume no spare space for any more books in the house, nor any
> > > > > > > off-siteq
> > >>>>> storage available without paying for it.
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>> (the above is roughly my situation)
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>>> I lost loads in a fire once. That is probably why I don't care
> > >>>>>> much about books these days.
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>> <puzzled> Does not compute.
> > >>>>
> > >>>> Once I lost them all, I never attached any meaning to them once i
> > >>>> started regaining them. I don't know, I expected them to go again.
> > >>>
> > >>> So your books were lost in a fire, and that meant you ended up
> > >>> considering books worthless?
> > >>>
> > >>> </DEEPLY/ puzzled>
> > >>>
> > >>> Still does not compute.
> > >>
> > >> Why would it have to compute? That is how it affected me, it is an
> > >> emotion, not a decision.
> > >
> > > <sigh> Humour. Have you heard of it? What the above phrase was
> > > meant
> > > as was an application of humour to a situation.
> >
> > I have, I live by it. However, as you don't often use it, and berated me
> > a few weeks ago for not using a smiley to show that I was using humour,
>
> Actually, I think you'll find it was more me berating you for sneering
> at me for not getting the joke - which happened simply because you
> failed to flag something as humour which was not obviously humour.

Not obvious to you as humour. Other people saw it as humour, so it was
obvious to them.

> That's the usual reason, not the warped explanation you give.
>
> > I didn't notice, sorry.
>
> Oi vey!
>
> Look, `does not compute' is obviously humorous in the above context,
> because it cannot be made to make sense when applied as a concept to the
> business in hand.

No. It is not even slightly obvious.

> Isn't it?
>
> I mean, yeah, if I had thought there was any significant risk of my lack
> of total seriousness being noticed, I would have put a smiley in.

which was my point the previous time I mentioned.

> > > It's me picking a hopefully mildly funny mode of pointing out that I
> > > don't understand, don't get it - with a side-band indicating that the
> > > problem is probably down to something particular about your emotional
> > > make-up that I do not share with you.
> >
> > I fully agree. I think our difference on this is that you don't
> > understand my reaction to something but feel you need to understand. I
> > also don't understand my reaction to it it, but don't really feel it
> > important enough to worry about.
>
> Erm, what? - oh, I see, you're talking about the burnt to death books.

yes.

> I see - yeah, well, your reaction is something very odd to my mind, very
> very odd indeed. Something about the way you look at the world is - as
> I'm sure you've noticed by now - radically different to the way I look
> at the world.

I think that much is true!

> The way I work things out, if I can find out something useful about your
> response to the burning of the books, then I would gain a significantly
> useful addition to my understanding of people in general in a fashion
> which would me of great practical benefit to me in my daily life.
>
> And *that* is why I want to know - understanding you personally in this
> respect isn't really the point, it's just a means to an end.

I can see that. Although I don't know how normal this is.

> > > Of course you will insult me by suggesting that the reason for that is
> > > my mental health problems now that I've explained that in full.
> >
> > No I won't. As I said before, I am not insulting anyone until I feel
> > insulted, which you haven't yet.
>
> Erm? Nope, that makes no sense either.
>
> > > But I had been hoping that this time, I might just be able to persuade
> > > you to explain a point rather than just insult me when I make it clear
> > > I
> > > don't understand.
> >
> > Reasonable hope, but the problem is that I really don't understand it
> > myself.
>
> Understand what?
>
> > I had a lot of books I cared about (and other stuff) and lost it
> > all in a fire.
>
> Ah - righto.
>
> > I was gutted about it but after that never really cared
> > about books again.
>
> Yeah, but: how come? What's going on? I can't feel the process.

No clue.

> > I now have several bookcases full of books and quite a few others
> > scattered around the house. In a perfect world they would convert
> > themselves to ebooks.
>
> I've never met a way of displaying the content of a book that's as
> convenient to use as ink on paper.
>
> I take it you find no such trouble?

Not only no such trouble, apart from certain minor cases such as an
appendix in a technical book of a couple of pages as a quick lookup I
find them mostly preferable.

But then I don't read end to end, and electronic helps with searching.

> > If they all disappeared tomorrow my first thought would be that I had a
> > lot more free space
>
> So why keep them?

the sheer effort of doing anything about it. It takes no effort to leave
them there, where as it would take considerable effort to move them.
I still do buy books, I have quite a few I haven't read.

--
Woody

www.alienrat.com
From: Woody on
D.M. Procida <real-not-anti-spam-address(a)apple-juice.co.uk> wrote:

> Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
>
> > D.M. Procida <real-not-anti-spam-address(a)apple-juice.co.uk> wrote:
> >
> > > Rowland McDonnell <real-address-in-sig(a)flur.bltigibbet.invalid> wrote:
> > >
> > > > > Once he lost his books, he discovered that he didn't have the same
> > > > > relationship with them as he had before - as if perhaps they might
> > > > > disappear once again.
> > > >
> > > > Yes, I can read the words - but I don't gain any meaning from doing so.
> > > >
> > > > I just don't get what he's on about at all.
> > >
> > > Saying "I just don't get what he's on about" sounds rude, if it's not
> > > meant to be.
> >
> > It seems to me like a perfectly normal neutral way of expressing a
> > neutral fact that couldn't possibly be objected to by anyone.
> >
> > What do you think is the rude aspect of it?
>
> If I were describing my feelings about losing something that mattered to
> me, and someone said that they didn't get what I was on about, I'd be a
> bit taken aback.
>
> > > In other contexts, it's quite a familar idea that an event like that can
> > > leave one unable to re-make an emotional investment that was wiped out.
> >
> > Umm. Sorry, what do you mean by *that*? I'm utterly bemused.
>
> There are lots of things people will never understand about each other.
>
> Even I, a powerful and effortless empath with a score of eight -
> *eight*! - on the official UCSM autistic spectrum diagnostic tool, don't
> quite get some things.

Maybe we should ask Peter!


--
Woody

www.alienrat.com
From: Pd on
Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:

> > Even I, a powerful and effortless empath with a score of eight -
> > *eight*! - on the official UCSM autistic spectrum diagnostic tool, don't
> > quite get some things.
>
> Maybe we should ask Peter!

Which Peter? I tested again, forced myself to do all the questions,
twice. First in my "feeling sociable" mindset in which I love people,
parties and being a bit disorganised, and second time through in my
"shut myself in the office and don't answer the phone and just work"
mode. My score varied between 10 and 29. So I display many colours in
the spectrum, which is exactly as it should be.

Speaking of spectral, I currently sport a multi-coloured eye socket, of
which I am inordinately proud. <http://bit.ly/bx0f4G>

--
Pd
From: Jim on
On 2010-06-30, Pd <peterd.news(a)gmail.invalid> wrote:
> Woody <usenet(a)alienrat.co.uk> wrote:
>
>> > Even I, a powerful and effortless empath with a score of eight -
>> > *eight*! - on the official UCSM autistic spectrum diagnostic tool, don't
>> > quite get some things.
>>
>> Maybe we should ask Peter!
>
> Which Peter? I tested again, forced myself to do all the questions,
> twice. First in my "feeling sociable" mindset in which I love people,
> parties and being a bit disorganised, and second time through in my
> "shut myself in the office and don't answer the phone and just work"
> mode. My score varied between 10 and 29. So I display many colours in
> the spectrum, which is exactly as it should be.

Rather like your trousers.

> Speaking of spectral, I currently sport a multi-coloured eye socket, of
> which I am inordinately proud. <http://bit.ly/bx0f4G>

Ye Gods. What happened there?

Jim
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